Unasked for advice for all!
Jul. 30th, 2010 11:01 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lisamoeI took a bath with a Lush bubble bar called "Temple of Truth." It's made me want to get truthy, so here goes. Some of these are things I have had to deal with myself to some extent or another. And here's something; I probably don't mean you in any of these, but if you read someone's random post and your conscience thinks they're talking about you, maybe you should look a little deeper into yourself even if they didn't have you in mind. I've done that myself, hopefully to my betterment. I'm lj-cutting this for general crankiness you might not want to read. Now everyone get off my lawn, dammit!
1) If you have a lot of fucked-up relationships and they all go bad eventually, you might take a look at the common denominator in those relationships. It might be that the problem is with you and not the dozen other people you've been involved with. Occam's Razor would suggest the simplest explanation and that's it. Take a good hard look at what you're doing and see if you can try something else. If you feel like you're NEVER to blame, you're wrong.
2) If no one wants to hang out with you, there's probably a reason why. See if you can figure out what it is. Maybe there's something about your character, or where you like to hang out, or how you've responded to other people's invitations or who else you like to hang out with. If people used to hang out with you and they don't now, what's changed? (This is one I've definitely had to deal with myself and I hope I am getting there on solving the problem.)
3) If your life seems to go wrong ALL THE TIME, you might just be supremely unlucky, or it might be that you're doing things to sabotoge yourself, even if you don't realize it. If you seem to have crazy bad luck, it's probably worth taking stock of just what's luck and what's your own conscious or unconscious doing. I know bad things sometimes happen to good people, but I also see people who seem to be in constant turmoil and I can see where they may have led themselves down that path to some extent. Maybe look at people in similar circumstances to yours who aren't having bad luck over every single thing and see what they're doing to make things better for themselves.
4) You can't ride your looks forever. If you're cute and sexy now and get away with outrageous bullshit because of it, some day that's probably not going to work anymore. You might try to develop a pleasant personality or practice not just using people because you can, in case someday you're not so cute and have to be a decent person out of necessity.
That is all. Are you kids still on my lawn?!?
1) If you have a lot of fucked-up relationships and they all go bad eventually, you might take a look at the common denominator in those relationships. It might be that the problem is with you and not the dozen other people you've been involved with. Occam's Razor would suggest the simplest explanation and that's it. Take a good hard look at what you're doing and see if you can try something else. If you feel like you're NEVER to blame, you're wrong.
2) If no one wants to hang out with you, there's probably a reason why. See if you can figure out what it is. Maybe there's something about your character, or where you like to hang out, or how you've responded to other people's invitations or who else you like to hang out with. If people used to hang out with you and they don't now, what's changed? (This is one I've definitely had to deal with myself and I hope I am getting there on solving the problem.)
3) If your life seems to go wrong ALL THE TIME, you might just be supremely unlucky, or it might be that you're doing things to sabotoge yourself, even if you don't realize it. If you seem to have crazy bad luck, it's probably worth taking stock of just what's luck and what's your own conscious or unconscious doing. I know bad things sometimes happen to good people, but I also see people who seem to be in constant turmoil and I can see where they may have led themselves down that path to some extent. Maybe look at people in similar circumstances to yours who aren't having bad luck over every single thing and see what they're doing to make things better for themselves.
4) You can't ride your looks forever. If you're cute and sexy now and get away with outrageous bullshit because of it, some day that's probably not going to work anymore. You might try to develop a pleasant personality or practice not just using people because you can, in case someday you're not so cute and have to be a decent person out of necessity.
That is all. Are you kids still on my lawn?!?
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Date: 2010-07-30 06:27 pm (UTC)Im off the lawn now though, promise! ;)
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Date: 2010-07-31 04:35 am (UTC)#3) (NOT saying my life goes wrong all the time... just something that I heard once from someone that rang true, but I could never figure out how to 'undo it'... with regards to financial bad luck... someone once said something like, "Maybe you're sabotaging yourself because you're afraid to have money" which, at the time sounded very true.
That in particular really doesn't ring true at this point in life, but I sometimes wonder if my S.O. has some very significant financial-subconcious-I-don't-deserve this kind of thing. At any rate, whether its him, me/both of us/bad luck... I'm still not sure how to fix it... just something that I've often thought, "WHAT am I doing WRONG??" (Beyond the typical financial advice, but more the, "obviously I'm screwing up in the cosmos somewhere" kind of way)
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Date: 2010-08-02 03:18 pm (UTC)I lived with someone who had to have a roller coaster or he was uncomfortable and would deliberately cause it - usually with job loss and monetary stress. But yeah - you get so tired of hearing about drama that people actually cause to happen.