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R called me today and asked if he ought to get rid of the Little Tykes playground equipment that the boys never play on anymore.  I told him sure and that I would put on my homeschool lists* that someone could have it if they'd pick it up.  He was happy with that because we don't really have a way to move it and maybe someone else could use it.   The lady in the next office overheard me and called around the corner to ask what I was getting rid of and I told her and she looked shocked and said I should SELL it because it's still in good shape.   Personally,  I'd rather give it away.  People have been really good to us over the years with nice hand-me-down clothes and toys, and I'd rather pass that kindness along than try to make a few dollars off something we don't need anymore.   We've given away carseats, toys, clothes as we've outgrown them and I gave a hardly used crib away when it became clear Dingo was not going to sleep in a crib.  It's funny though, that I, basically an atheist, feel that way but I find a lot of people who are otherwise very moralistic about religion (and I'm not referring to anyone here, please don't think I am!!!) are also very mercenary in that way.  I mean, if you really needed the money, ok, but I've heard people who are doing fine financially opine that they'd rather get SOMETHING for their old stuff than just GIVE it away.   I don't really understand that.  Why not just help someone else instead of trying to get some tiny bit more cash you don't really need?   Isn't that a big part of Christianity, the charity and the valuing doing the right thing over trying to become wealthy in this world?  Or is all that "...sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven..."** stuff just a killjoy folks don't want to think about cause it's not as fun as raking in money?

Oh, and I want to say that I have good Christian friends who I feel try to liveup to the ideals they espouse and I'm not ragging on them, just on people who seem to notice all the scriptures that govern the things they don't like other people doing and bypass the ones that inconvenience them personally.

*If anyone here needs a Little Tykes playground set (good for about 2-6 year olds) I haven't put it on my other lists yet.

**Luke 18:22, lest you think I'm making things up.

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There is wisdom in turning as often as possible from the familiar to the unfamiliar: it keeps the mind nimble, it kills prejudice, and it fosters humor.
-George Santayana, philosopher (1863-1952)
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So yesterday I was reading along in a mystery novel by Nancy Pickard. Briefly, it's about a creepy guy with no past who has apparently murdered a little deaf girl. Along the line you find out a little about the creepy guy's childhood and it's mysterious and tragic too, though he's still quite creepy.  Anyway, the tough district attorney is talking to the protagonist, a true crime writer ,and says about the murderer, "That is why it's so important for adults to be nice to kids. Every damn, annoying one of them. Smile at every kid, I tell people, because that may be the only smile they get from any adult all week long. If I catch any of my assistants being rude to children I tell them, congratulations, you just helped create another alienated, miserable human being."   

That really spoke to me.   And is one reason I try to treat kids with as much kindness as I can, even when they annoy me.   Because I don't know what a child is already having to go through in life and I definitely don't want to be part of whatever turns that kid into the next generation's misanthrope, basket case, or sociopath.   It's my tiny investment in living in a more civil and less frightening world when I'm an old lady.
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So this meme's been going around. I won't tag anyone cause I never do, but here's the deal. Go to and look through the random quotations and find five that speak to you and post them in your journal. I'd really like to expound on some of these and why they resonate with me right at this time, but I guess I'll just let them speak for themselves.  

There is no reciprocity. Men love women, women love children, children love hamsters.
--Alice Thomas Ellis

There's a whiff of the lynch mob or the lemming migration about any overlarge concentration of like-thinking individuals, no matter how virtuous their cause.
--P. J. O'Rourke

Say what you will about the Ten Commandments, you must always come back to the pleasant fact that there are only ten of them.
--H. L. Mencken (1880 - 1956)

Children might or might not be a blessing, but to create them and then fail them was surely damnation.
--Lois McMaster Bujold, "Barrayar", 1991

I appreciate people who are civil, whether they mean it or not. I think: Be civil. Do not cherish your opinion over my feelings. There's a vanity to candor that isn't really worth it. Be kind.
--Richard Greenberg
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I saw this in the k-2homeschool community and it really struck a chord with me. Thanks [ profile] wifeymom! Hope you don't mind me reposting it.

How to Answer the Socialization Question Once and for All by Marsha Ransom

I am beginning to tire of the many articles, essays and responses I keep running across on what has become to be known as the "socialization question."

Homeschooling families, please listen carefully: What people refer to as socialization is a non-issue! It has become a buzz-word among the Official Homeschool Nay Sayers Society. When someone asks you the question ("What about SOCIALIZATION!?"), I suggest you begin by asking them, "What do you mean by socialization?" They will more than likely proceed with some variation on the following theme: "You know, having your kids spend time with other kids their age. Hanging out with their friends, stuff like that." At that point do not, under any circumstances respond with, "Oh my little Susie gets plenty of socialization! She's in 4-H and Awanas, and Sunday school and HomeSchool band and she volunteers at the nursing home etc.etc. etc. In fact she has so many opportunities for socialization that I hardly have time to teach her some days..YaDa YaDa YaDa." Why not? Because this is not what socialization really is!

Here is a more appropriate response: "Oh, I think the word you are looking for is socializing. Socialization is actually defined as the process by which the norms and standards of our society are passed from one generation to the next. I've never really thought that a complete strangers six-year old child would be a good source of information on the correct standards of behavior in our family and in society as a whole. As for socializing, I remember from my school days that it was something you weren't supposed to be doing during class!"

We do not have to defend homeschooling based on false assumptions, false accusations, and false information. Please stop telling others about all the opportunities your kids have for "socialization" and start gently exposing them to the real issue here-- a lot of what kids learn from other kids in social situations is simply living according to "The Law of the Jungle." In our family, we have a higher set of laws to follow and I bet your family does too. Next time, don't be afraid to say so!

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So I think astrology is so much bullshit, but I always find something of use in the astrology column at Free Will Astrology. Not because of the astrology aspect, but just because I like the advice.

Aries Horoscope for week of March 16, 2006

Your horoscope this week comes to you courtesy of the ancient Chinese book of oracles, the I Ching, translated by Richard Wilhelm. The title of your reading is "Liberation." Here's the heart of it: "In times of standstill it will happen that inferior people attach themselves to you and even seem to grow indispensable. But when the time of deliverance draws near, with its call to action, you must free yourself from such chance acquaintances with whom you have no inner connections. For otherwise the friends who share your views, on whom you could rely and together with whom you could accomplish great things, mistrust you and stay away."

This really spoke to me. I think that a couple of months ago I wrote that the last year had been a year of pruning and winnowing, and I feel like that is still continuing. I want the influences in my life and the people I spend my time on to be people with whom I have mutual respect and a meeting of the minds. Reading this helped me refocus on my desire to make a "family" of friends and to scale back on spending time on relationships that don't have mutual enrichment and support. Not that I have many of those now anyway, but it's good to be reminded to be aware of how I spend my relationship energy.


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